When a bride gets stressed, people chuckle and say she’s having a bridezilla moment. There are totally real bridezillas out there, who are selfish, demanding, and vicious about getting their way. I’ve seen them. However, not every stressed bride is a bridezilla. I’m sure many of them are stressed because they’re trying too hard and failing to be everything everybody else wants.
Every moment that a bride lets anybody make the wedding about anything other than the love being celebrated, she is facing a stressful and disappointing situation. Whether it is societal/industrial pressure to do things a certain way, or toxic individuals using the wedding as leverage for a power play, the bride will find that something she thought would be about love is becoming a messy complicated thing about everybody else’s feelings and opinions. Brides need to keep the focus on celebrating that love, and block out those attempts to change the focus.
I’m having a hard time taking that advice. I guess it’s because subconsciously, I’d rather worry and appease and accommodate than admit to myself that some people are more concerned with this and that, rather than with being happy for our love on one special day.
I bet a lot of brides feel this way. When you go into this feeling so happy and wanting to share that with everybody, it creates a situation in which a very large group of people becomes involved. The more people that are involved, the more likely a bride is to be confronted with multiple stressful or disappointing situations simultaneously. It makes it clear who cares about what, all at once. That feels really overwhelming, and in some cases, heartbreaking.
From what I’ve seen, most brides manage to put the focus back where it should be on the wedding day itself. I think I will be able to also. But right now…
Squishable Katamari!? [my inner plush-a-holic is spazzing out right now]f you would like this to become a real plush, please reblog & preorder if possible
According to Squishable’s Official Facebook: "There’s a Squishable Katamari design up on WeSquish! Show your support for this awesome 9-inch Katamari Ball by pre-ordering it! If it reaches 100 backers by the deadline, we’ll make it into a real plush and send it to you when it’s ready! Indeed!"
I ordered mine! It needs 30 more orders to go into production so please reblog this perfect thing!
Song of the Sea Teaser, an animated feature film from Oscar nominated Tomm Moore (The Secret of Kells) (by Cartoon Saloon)
SONG OF THE SEA tells the story of Ben and his little sister Saoirse — the last Seal-child — who embark on a fantastic journey across a fading world of ancient legend and magic in an attempt to return to their home by the sea. The film takes inspiration from the mythological Selkies of Irish folklore, who live as seals in the sea but become humans on land. SONG OF THE SEA features the voices of Brendan Gleeson, Fionnula Flanagan, David Rawle, Lisa Hannigan, Pat Shortt, Jon Kenny, Lucy O’Connell, Liam Hourican and Kevin Swierszsz. Music is by composer Bruno Coulais and Irish band Kíla, both of whom previously collaborated on The Secret of Kells.
I am looking forward to this more than any other movie.
alternaterealitygame: You’re starving, and 5 M&Ms out of 100,000 M&Ms is poisoned. Do you starve yourself to death, or do you take a handful?
10% of men aren’t going to go on murderous rampages. There are 5.3 homicides for every 100,000 people. That’s a .005% chance of you being murdered by anyone, male or female.”
Hi Alternaterealitygame. I am always happy when people back up their points with data and sources. However, they have to be comprehensive.
Page 26 of a 2006 report by the US Department of Justice states that 25.5% of total women surveyed experienced rape, assault, and/OR stalking at some point in their lives. (7.7% rape, 24.8% assault, 4.8% stalking, specifically)
Here is some more relevant data with sources listed on the page from a university website rwu.edu:
- One in four college women have either been raped or suffered attempted rape.
- One in 12 male students surveyed had committed acts that met the legal definition of rape.
- 25 percent of men surveyed believed that rape was acceptable if the woman asks the man out, the man pays for the date or the woman goes back to the man’s room after the date.
The M&M analogy was about perceived danger. That includes harassment, assault, rape, and death.
I’m hoping you didn’t mean to imply that all men are angels so long as they don’t kill anybody, or that all stalking, assault, or rape victims are okay during or after being victimized. And I’m sure you didn’t purposely leave out those other violent crimes just to illegitimatize the fears of other women. Maybe you just forgot for a moment that anything but murder could hurt people because you were thinking about the Elliot Rodger case.
I’m pleased that your personal life experience has primarily been filled with good men. Mine has too. However, I think it is important to acknowledge the real dangers that thousands of other women have, do, and will face every day. Nobody is saying that the men in your life are monsters, so you don’t need to go to bat defending them. They’re saying that a fraction of men are monsters, and that it is scary to them. In a world where 1 in 4 women are victims of stalking, assault, or rape in their lifetimes, they feel that it is a real danger to be concerned about.
Regardless of statistics, keep this in mind:
The M&M analogy was about perceived danger. While I don’t personally feel that afraid in my own life, the analogy is meant to help those of us that are not afraid to understand why others are afraid. If we understand how they feel, maybe we will try to help.
Downplaying the problem with incomplete data does’t help anybody but the perpetrators. Instead, please consider the data and experiences of those outside your circle. Advocate to promote a culture where ALL men are expected to be as excellent as you expect the men in your life to be. Thank you.
My concept for the next iteration Wacom Intuos hardware. [Click to see full size to read text]
So I was sitting thinking today while at work, I enjoy using physical rulers and triangles on the screen of my Cintiq to quickly make straight lines. (Only plastic ones will work. Metal blocks the signal of the digitizer layer and the cursor loses the pen.) It’s fun, tactile, and practical since it works so well. Allows you to produce natural looking strokes with full-time pressure control and not have to fiddle with snapping of software-based tools.
But what about the intuos? You can’t really use a ruler on one of them because there’s no way to see on your monitor where the ruler is placed on your intuos surface. So I thought, why hasn’t Wacom ever made a kind of smart ruler accessory that tracks the same way as the pen / mouse devices on its surface? The size of the ruler would be exactly known, so the driver software would be able to visualize on screen precisely where the ruler is. So all you have to do is bring your cursor up to the displayed edge and bam, you’re drawing against the ruler. And since it’s communicating with the tablet, why not give it a touch strip and a couple expresskeys to make it pull double duty?
Better yet, Wacom could probably make good use of the empty-unused bezel on the side of the tablet by turning it into a dock for the ruler — the keys of which would still work when it’s docked. Remember the expresskeys on both sides of the tablet during the old Iintuos3 days? Yeah, those were nice. This seems like an innovative progression of that. (And can lead to other cool hardware-based guides. Like a french curve, maybe?)
Think this would be cool to see? I do :D
Let’s see if Wacom picks up my idea!
Photoshop’s line tool is a much slower and less fluid way to make straight lines. It requires switching to different tools to adjust the line or make new ones. It also can’t stroke with varying line weight mid-stroke, even if you load the line tool as a selection. A physical tool like this would allow you to draw many more lines at varying desired angles in the time the line tool allows you to draw one robotic looking one. (As someone who does perspective-heavy work on my Cintiq, I’ve learned the value and workflow speed of using physical rulers on it!)
This is a perfect idea that is completely possible with our level of tech. I’m sure some awesome indie tech guys could make this happen so that it could be used in tandem with any drawing program.
I would Kickstart the hell out of this if I were you. I would absolutely back it and promote it.