Anonymous asked: So it seems like FP represents the correct way to deal with grief, while Finn represents the wrong way. Who would have thought FP would become the most stable character on this show?
I would hardly call Finn’s way the “wrong way”, because I’m pretty sure he’ll get over it eventually, but Finn is an example of a character going through the various motions of grief a lot more slowly than another character. Finn’s actions in “Too Old” WERE a bad way to handle grief. However his other actions were not unexpected and feel natural.
Finn also dealt well with grief in other episodes, such as “The Vault” where he got closure, and “Blade of Grass” where he just accepted the problem as a fact.
Where he struggled the most was “Dungeon Train”.
Flame Princess dealt well, she moved on rather quickly. Although it may turn out in the future that she’s doing worse.
Marceline has started to handle grief properly. She has let out some steam with some people in her life, solved some problems. When she collected Hambo in “Sky Witch”, she was able to move on from Ash. In “Simon and Marcy” she came to terms with Ice King, although in “Betty” the whole Simon deal was brought up again and I was wondering how
Jake and Peebles are currently hit the hardest, I think. Jake knows that he shouldn’t be getting upset over his kids aging too quickly, but he feels like he’s missed an important part of his life. Jake is also tired, he’s out of steam with this Hero biz. And Peebles just doesn’t even try to face down grief, whenever someone gets upset or dies the first thing she does is try to find an unnatural way to make it all better. She doesn’t accept the death and tries to undo it, and with other things, she doesnt accept that it should be a problem in the first place. When a problem is an actual obstacle she tries to forget it. So these two are really bottling shit up.
I love your posts. I agree with a lot of this, but I think we interpret Marcy and Bubblegum differently. There may be bias or personal experience coloring my viewpoint, but I also think I have some good evidence to back it up.
Marceline never showed that she was hung up on Ash himself. She is expressive through her music, but never wrote any songs about him. Or mentioned him. Or anything. I think she simply wanted Hambo back because it was an important memento of Simon. When she was able to see Simon again, she was able to let go of that memento and get closure on some of her Simon grief, definitely.
For PB, again, I partially agree and disagree. She definitely bottles. She is possibly the biggest bottler in the show. She also tends to tenaciously tackle some problems, such as taking such drastic action towards Flame Princess. But to say that she doesn’t accept death seems to be an oversimplification. To me, she seems more aware of other characters’ mortality than most.
- When she essentially sets James up to sacrifice himself, she does so because she knows that Finn’s death would be more detrimental to the kingdom. She knows she could not “bring back” Finn because he is more overtly the sum of his experiences, whereas a simple, easily replicated candy guy like James was specifically designed to be easily replaced. (The ambiguous morality is another issue there…)
- When Shoko dies, she is sad, but knows not to try to bring her back.
- When LSP zaps her boyfriend, for all PB knows, he’s dead and there is nothing she can do about it. She helps LSP to forget, but shoulders the weight of being the only one who remembers. So she drinks in order to deal with it, but not to forget. Drinking alone doesn’t help anybody forget anything.
Yes, she’s bottling. She has to keep going, with the weight of the world on her shoulders. I don’t see that as her being in denial, or trying to forget. She just has to keep going.