When a bride gets stressed, people chuckle and say she’s having a bridezilla moment. There are totally real bridezillas out there, who are selfish, demanding, and vicious about getting their way. I’ve seen them. However, not every stressed bride is a bridezilla. I’m sure many of them are stressed because they’re trying too hard and failing to be everything everybody else wants.
Every moment that a bride lets anybody make the wedding about anything other than the love being celebrated, she is facing a stressful and disappointing situation. Whether it is societal/industrial pressure to do things a certain way, or toxic individuals using the wedding as leverage for a power play, the bride will find that something she thought would be about love is becoming a messy complicated thing about everybody else’s feelings and opinions. Brides need to keep the focus on celebrating that love, and block out those attempts to change the focus.
I’m having a hard time taking that advice. I guess it’s because subconsciously, I’d rather worry and appease and accommodate than admit to myself that some people are more concerned with this and that, rather than with being happy for our love on one special day.
I bet a lot of brides feel this way. When you go into this feeling so happy and wanting to share that with everybody, it creates a situation in which a very large group of people becomes involved. The more people that are involved, the more likely a bride is to be confronted with multiple stressful or disappointing situations simultaneously. It makes it clear who cares about what, all at once. That feels really overwhelming, and in some cases, heartbreaking.
From what I’ve seen, most brides manage to put the focus back where it should be on the wedding day itself. I think I will be able to also. But right now…
Squishable Katamari!? [my inner plush-a-holic is spazzing out right now]f you would like this to become a real plush, please reblog & preorder if possible
According to Squishable’s Official Facebook: "There’s a Squishable Katamari design up on WeSquish! Show your support for this awesome 9-inch Katamari Ball by pre-ordering it! If it reaches 100 backers by the deadline, we’ll make it into a real plush and send it to you when it’s ready! Indeed!"
I ordered mine! It needs 30 more orders to go into production so please reblog this perfect thing!
Song of the Sea Teaser, an animated feature film from Oscar nominated Tomm Moore (The Secret of Kells) (by Cartoon Saloon)
SONG OF THE SEA tells the story of Ben and his little sister Saoirse — the last Seal-child — who embark on a fantastic journey across a fading world of ancient legend and magic in an attempt to return to their home by the sea. The film takes inspiration from the mythological Selkies of Irish folklore, who live as seals in the sea but become humans on land. SONG OF THE SEA features the voices of Brendan Gleeson, Fionnula Flanagan, David Rawle, Lisa Hannigan, Pat Shortt, Jon Kenny, Lucy O’Connell, Liam Hourican and Kevin Swierszsz. Music is by composer Bruno Coulais and Irish band Kíla, both of whom previously collaborated on The Secret of Kells.
I am looking forward to this more than any other movie.